Comments on: eHarmony is a bigot

By: Mittie Duong

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By: Druk

Druk — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 17:45:52 +0000

The problem is that the lawsuit got far enough for EH to settle. It should have been thrown out as soon as it was filed. Who is EH to decide anything? THE ONES SELLING THEIR SERVICES TO YOU.
Imagine if I sold WW2 memorabilia, but refused to sell to any Neo-Nazis. Do you think I should then be the victim of a class-action lawsuit?
Or let’s say I was a gun dealer, should I be forced to sell to people with recognizable gang tattoos?

By: Rory

Rory — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:14:01 +0000

I am a little bit confused as to which person in the gay community complained that e-harmony was being homo-phobic. We have to remember that the gay community basically started social networking and in particular online dating with sites like Gaydar.

Why would a gay person ever need e-harmony? They’ve been doing it twice as good for twice as long already.

By: James Hughes

James Hughes — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:58:11 +0000

I support gay rights and the way to do so is not by infringing on the rights of a business owner to run their business they way the see fit.

If we were talking about a government agency, that would be a legitimate issue. Government can not discriminate on the basis of religion, sexual orientation, or race.

Private organizations, and individuals do have that right.

By: Kit

Kit — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:37:20 +0000

The whole thing is complete twaddle. EHarmony is a business, and they’re entitled to market to whomever they like- you don’t sue a dress shop for not carrying men’s suits, you can’t sue a Burger King for not carrying the Big Mac, and you should not be able to sue a website that caters to straights for not serving gay and lesbian mate seekers.
I’m POLY, and most social matching sites don’t permit MY demographic either- you know why? Most of their clients are looking for someone who’s monogamous!
I don’t care – I use sites that DO cater to my niche demographic , and don’t think *I* have the right to tell someone else what their business model should be.
EHarmony should never have settled- but it’s costly to fight today’s entitlement crowd, and the suit should never have made it as far as it did.

By: justelise

justelise — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 17:58:48 +0000

Exactly — you don’t get to choose whether or not to comply, because if you wanted to fight the legal battle, you would not have settled in the first place.

eHarmony also rejects people who are younger than 60 who have been married 2 or more times (and presumably divorced when they fill out their profile), and they also reject people for personality characteristics like their level of happiness, and whether or not they are social or aloof. The problem is that those characteristics are subjective, and who is eHarmony to decide who is acceptably social or happy versus those who are not.

I’d be psyched to see all of the people who got rejected from eHarmony for totally subjective reasons (assuming there is no indication of sociopathic behavior or any history of it) band together and hit them with a class action suit.

By: admin

admin — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 01:45:24 +0000

You don’t get to choose whether or not you comply with a settlement.

By: daniel

daniel — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 01:02:53 +0000

what is the problem with them having a website for straight people only? its not their fucking job to cater to every fucking demographic of people. find a different gay dating website if you dont like eharmonys one.

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